life doesn't come with an instruction manual

No one tells you life is hard. No one tells you the secrets to getting what you want - the job, the clothes, the love of your life, etc. Part of the fun of it is learning as you go, but that can also be one of the worst parts about it.

We grow up watching movies and tv shows that show happily ever afters and fairy tales, and it becomes ingrained in us that our lives should follow in the same way. Those movies didn't show the bad things; they showed everything through rose colored glasses and expected us to become eternal optimists, hopeless romantics, and blindly faithful. And when we don't, when we somehow fail to meet these expectations, we automatically feel guilty or bad about ourselves. Why do we allow ourselves to feel so badly about not reaching an ideal that is practically unreachable in the first place? 

Everyone is going to have their heart broken at least once in their lives, everyone is going to lose out on the "perfect" job, and everyone is going to feel like they just can't do anything right sometimes. Yes, that is going to hurt, and you're probably going to feel bad for a while. You might even feel worthless. But if this happens to everyone, why do we feel so bad?

Life doesn't come with an instruction manual. It probably wouldn't be as much fun if it did, but when things just don't seem to go your way, you want that instruction manual more than anything. It's like reading the end of a book first to find out the ending. We just want some confirmation that everything is going to end up ok, that we will live an amazing life, and that we won't be failures. Guess those are just things you have to rely on the blind faith for after all...